By Frances Bryce, September 10, 2015 — When my children were very young, my mother-in-law often showered them with gifts. She had limited income so I felt that she could use the money for herself rather than buying things for her two grandkids. My husband and I were both employed and had incomes that far exceeded hers.
I expressed my concerns with an older and much wiser woman about my feelings and if I should make a big deal about this issue. She said people who give sometimes need to learn to receive and that my mother-in-law was not depriving herself when she opts to give to her grandchildren. She urged me not to deny her the privilege of doing so. I was glad that I sought her council before I took away one of the joys she had in her life. I was able to see from her eyes what gave her a great deal of happiness when the kids gave her a big smile and hugs.
Giving for me also means that I now experience what I think she received, a great feeling of receiving.